What To Do When You Get Divorced

What To Do When You Get Divorced

February 13, 2019

The ending of a marriage can be painful, traumatic, overwhelming, and expensive. Amidst the intense emotions and drastic life changes that result from a divorce, there are important financial matters to consider. While there’s no avoiding the emotions that come with such a significant life event, you may be able to reduce some of the stress and financial implications if you prepare ahead of time.

The Financial Implications Of Divorce

There’s no doubt about it; divorce can absolutely devastate your financial situation. Think about it this way: in order to maintain the same standard of living post-split, individuals would need more than a 30% increase in income. (1) And it’s even more challenging when children are involved. Since most children live with their mother after a divorce, one in five women find themselves in poverty due to the financial burden associated with taking care of the children.

Don’t let yourself become a statistic. Before you file papers for a divorce, make sure you’ve reviewed these tips that will help you plan for the best financial outcome.

1. Guard Your Emotions

We all know that it’s unwise to make financial decisions based on emotions, but it’s easier said than done. Divorce is an emotionally heightened time when you’re forced to make pivotal choices regarding your future. Try to avoid taking out your feelings on your spouse by focusing on the tasks at hand and turning to your advisor to help you keep a clear head about what really matters.

Because there are so many difficult decisions to be made, don’t rush the process. As unenjoyable as a divorce is, you want to carefully consider each decision. The choices you make will have a long-term impact.

2. Everything Is Fair Game

When splitting up assets and liabilities, almost everything is up for grabs, even things that are in only one person’s name. Whether it’s credit card debt or frequent flyer miles, understand that it all needs to be negotiated. There’s one area where this doesn’t apply; gifts and inheritances that are linked to one spouse only are not at risk of division unless they are commingled with other assets.

When you are entering marriage, it’s understandable that you don’t want to think about a future divorce. But with the high rate of divorce from first marriages and the shocking fact that subsequent marriages have an even higher chance of failure, (2) it’s worth it to consider a prenuptial agreement or at least create an inventory and valuation of assets prior to marriage.

3. Plan Your Purchase

If you know you have a significant purchase on the horizon, make the acquisition before filing for divorce. Once the papers are in the hands of the court, many states prevent people from making big purchases through an automatic financial restraining order.

4. Gather Evidence

Despite the emotional toll of divorce, it’s vital that you are thorough in your organization. Since you’ll want an accurate record of the assets you own and the debts you owe, start a list of all marital assets and liabilities. Of course, items like your home and cars are important to include, but remember to list other assets, including artwork, pensions, inheritances, second homes, and other valuables. It might be worth it to take photos of your assets, make copies of account statements, and have a record of all important numbers.

5. Be Honest

Hiding assets is not the way to go. If you try to conceal something from your spouse and it is discovered later, you could lose your credibility in court and face penalties.

6. Plan For The Tax Impact

If you receive a transfer of money as a result of the divorce agreement, you will not face taxes on that income, and under the new tax laws, alimony is no longer taxable. Unfortunately, the party paying the alimony can no longer deduct their payments from their taxes.

In addition to changes in taxable income, a divorce will require that you make decisions about who will get the exemption for dependents, who will be able to claim head of household status, along with other tax implications that could cost you thousands of dollars.

7. Consider A Mediator

In addition to doubling living expenses and loss of income, divorce can devastate your finances due to all the legal fees involved! The average cost of a contested divorce ranges from $15,000 to $30,000. (3) If you want to avoid these high fees, use a mediator who will facilitate agreements and help you avoid hefty legal costs.

8. Update Beneficiaries

With all the paperwork and life upheaval, many people forget to update their beneficiary designations. It’s common for married couples to have each other listed on their accounts, so if the unthinkable happens and you pass away, your ex might end up with your assets. Make a list of all accounts that have a beneficiary listed and make the changes right away.

9. Educate Yourself

In many marriages, one spouse will take on the responsibility of handling all financial matters from budgeting to paying bills. In a divorce, that can mean the other spouse is completely clueless about their financial situation as well as how to manage finances on their own.

If you aren’t in charge of your household’s finances, you’ll want to review accounts and get a handle on everything you and your spouse own before starting the divorce process. It’s important that you understand your current income, savings, regular bills, and debts. You may be assuming you have more or less than you actually do, or you may discover a loan or account you weren’t aware of. By obtaining a big picture of your finances, you’ll have an idea of what you and your spouse will split, how you’ll handle your children’s expenses, and other financial decisions that will have to be made.

10. Plan For The Future

Going through a divorce is hard enough; you want to get back on your feet as quickly as possible without another series of hurdles and roadblocks. Although many people will experience a divorce in their lifetime, few are prepared for all the details that need to be handled after the divorce settlement is in place in order to restore peace of mind and independence.

Once the divorce is finalized, it’s time to move forward. You’ll need to create your own budget, determine new goals, and review your investments to ensure they line up with your personal risk level. For many, this can be overwhelming, but divorce is not the nail in your financial coffin. Find a financial advisor who can walk you through the process and help you set yourself up for success. At HBA Wealth, we don’t just talk about goals and investments, we focus on building a relationship with you and walking with you through whatever life circumstances come your way. If you or someone you know is going through a divorce, we’re here to help. Contact our office at (626) 529-8347 or email me directly at ricky@hbawealth.com.

About Haydel, Biel & Associates

Haydel, Biel & Associates is an independent financial advisory firm serving individuals and families near Pasadena, California. The firm was founded in 2004 by Chris Haydel and Ricky Biel with a desire to provide unbiased, client-centered, community-based financial advice. Together, they have built a practice that has grown into a family of caring, smart professionals committed to blending proven investment methodologies with creative financial technologies that make it easier than ever to accomplish your goals. They strive to keep things simple and fun to give their clients peace of mind and alleviate financial stress. HBA Wealth takes care of their clients’ needs first and foremost and goes the extra mile to make their clients’ finances grow. To meet and see how the HBA Wealth team may be able to help, contact them today at (626) 529-8347 or email Ricky directly at ricky@hbawealth.com.


(1) https://divorce.usu.edu/files-ou/Lesson7.pdf

(2) http://proactiveadvisormagazine.com/financial-impact-of-divorce/

(3) http://info.legalzoom.com/average-cost-divorce-20103.html